Perception.
What does it mean?
- The effect or product of perceiving.
- Psychology
- Recognition and interpretation of sensory stimuli based chiefly on memory.
- The neurological processes by which such recognition and interpretation are effected.
- Insight, intuition, or knowledge gained by perceiving.
- The capacity for such insight.
-Dictionary.com
To make it simple,it's what your mind concludes about something.
''Oh,I love her red high heels.''
''THIS IS F***ING BAD!!!I'M GONNA F***ING FAIL!!F*** YOU!!F*** THE WORLD!!!''
''Oh dear,it looks like it's gonna rain.=S Oh well ^-^'' *continues sipping coffee*
''So what if I'm different? So what if I'm weird? As long as I'm happy, I can rule the world!!!''
''I'm a freakin' FAILURE.I got 2 C's.Leave me ALONE.''
Marcus Lim said '' Thus,ladies and gentlemen ,we DO live in a neutral world.What gives an object or event it's good property is OUR PERCEPTION!''
Everything in this world,it's neither bad nor good.It ALWAYS begins as neutral.Yes indeed,I believe we do live in a neutral world.Neutral is boring? Well,that's what YOU are for!To add some spice to your life! There's sorrow, envy, wrath ,happiness ,excitement , love and loads more! I personally like adding a
''Nothing is either good or bad but thinking makes it so.''-Soo Hui Li's MSN personal message
Hahahaha.She's been using the same pm for the past 11 months.But, Hui Li,I'm curious.Do you REALLY believe in it? Wait, that's redundant.You do believe you believe in it but do you apply it to your life?If yes,how? I'd love to know ;)
With that being said,I'd love to share with you a story.
Post-Exam Period.
My favourite time of the year for observing perceptions!Audible expressions(F words) are bountiful(ample,a lot?) which makes it all the more amusing to watch^^
We're moments away from getting our year-end exam results.Tension is in the air.Our emotional control is experiencing its weakest point.Will I drop class? Will I get top 10 in class like I aimed?
Ahh that one tell you later.I don't wanna talk about my reaction right now.I'd like to talk about others.
Imagine it.Your class just got your results on the last day of school. Everyone's crowding around your teacher.A vile stench fills the air.The stench wafts in the air,rolls between tables and finally settles in your nostrils.Wassat u say? Body odour XD
What?Boys sweat a lot when they're nervous =/
I can see it.Can you?
''F#CK!F#CK!F#CK!F#CK THIS BLARDY PAPER!''
''Whoopie!I got number 1 again! Harhar I beat euu!''
''What?I can't believe I got this....I studied KH as much as Sejarah..''
''No,no.There must be something wrong.I'm a genius.I'm gonna beat all of you.I'm gonna find Pn. Aminah.''
''Aww damnit.Only 91 for Science...I aimed 95+.Now I won't get RM15 from my tuition teacher...''
''Damnit.Next year sure drop class.F#ck this shit la.''
''Don't care about exam.Bye-bye Matahari.Eddie Cahill.Eddie Cahill.Eddie Cahill.''
"I studied very hard!I'm definitely correct!This teacher is stupid!I'm always right! 8["
Fascinating, ain't it?
No? Well, we all have our personal opinions.
Those who did badly,I don't think I saw an ounce of optimism in anyone 10 minutes past getting their results.But that's only 10 minutes of making their lives miserable.I don't think it's fatal.
How did I do and react?
Oh,I find it really amusing looking back~~~~
Chan Xian Ting scurried past me and came to a halt after she recognised my face.
''Yau, you got 35 in class.You did badly cuz you FAILED your art.They're counting with Grade Point Average.Omg,I got 27,I think I'm gonna drop class.''
You can drop class with 27?
''Wth??? But they've never used GPA system before! What the crap?!''
*frantically heads towards teacher's office with Christine,Bee & Cheryl.*
''NO WAY.NO WAY.NO WAY .I have never done so badly before!I want to bloody see it for myself.''
Seriously,I ALWAYS stay in the teens.I've been working hard and have stayed among the creme de la creme for the past two years!35 was a really big blow for me.I found it really hard to believe.Sorry for lanc-ing.It was rlly harsh =(
*reached office**found result slip**scanned for seni visual*
SVK-36% (E)
Kedudukan dalam kelas-35
''Wtf! I don't believe I failed my seni! * starts tearing* 35! My mom's gonna be so angry...='( I'm gonna see Pn. Chan and demand for a remark!That bitch is gonna die''
Difference between mid-term and year-end
Aaron Soh-1st to 7th
Cheryl Anne-6th to 18th
me-14th to 35th
Christine Kuan-8th to 25th
Yeah,all of us were pretty much devastated.There was a lot of yelling and ''I demand an explanation!''s
But,the story doesn't end there.Turned out SVK didn't stand for seni visual.It stood for SIVIK.I failed my sivik,not my seni and everyone knows sivik doesn't count in position so yeah,they had to re-do everything.I jumped 14 places.
21 is still the worst I've ever gotten but ahh oh well,there's always next year.'Sides,I would've worked harder for my grades instead of aiming for 90s.If only I knew...
''You know you're able to move on and get over something once you're able to say oh well.''-Somewhere laTrue,no?
Moral of the story.
It's okay to be negative about something for awhile but don't go overboard.
Ahh damnit,went off-topic.Back to PERCEPTION.
There basically only two simple categories for perception.
Positive.
Negative.
I don't think it's very difficult to differentiate those two but if you really don't get it...
I don't like vegetables.
I like coffee.
There ya go.
Maybe I want to believe I'm the Ultimate Master of all thing happy and positive so ya know,whatever.So what if it's self-proclaimed?I know I'm happier than you but then again,personal opinion.
What I'm trying to say is I think I kinda know when it's best to stay positive and when we can let go a little.
People always question my happiness & optimism.Why?Is it a crime being positive?Seriously, do you think YOU can afford to always be negative in life?
Quite frankly,I don't think so.I'm sorry to all the emos out there but I just can't see why you always have to go on harping about how miserable your life is.
Situation 1(really happened): Random girl drowns me in a sea of F words for answering her question during mid-term
GirlMe
*takes a seat*
"How much did you get for your KH?"
"70.I didn't do too well."
''Fvck!Fvck!Fvck!Fvck!Fvck you!You don't even blardy do your homework!!!Fvck this paper!!!"
I seriously fail to understand that person and it's not like she even said it jokingly.She looked so...angry like I killed her mother or something.Like wth is her problem???I just answered her question.No,I don't remember stabbing her with a pencil.It's not like I even did well anyway..=/
Can you see how VERY negative perceptions affect your life and the people around you?
In this case,people get a bad impression of her and she earns herself a reputation of being really volatile(explosive) and no one likes a sour puss.
On a side note, Mataharians,most of us overreact too much.I've seen it happen I dunno, too many times?
''Arghhhhhh!I fvcking failed my Geo!!''
When in actual fact,you got a C.I didn't know C's stood for fail =/
See how much you overreact and exaggerate?
So stop it.It's negative perception and it annoys people.
Situation 2: Your friend just spread a fake rumor about you .You're upset that she betrayed and backstabbed you.Watcha gonna do about it?
Firstly,this is more of a girl thing.Do guys backstab each other as much as girls?
NegativePositive
You decide to get your sweet revenge by spreading fake rumors about her too.You decide to let it go and tell yourself that somehow she won't be able to resist gossiping about her other friends for long and that one day,they too will witness her true colours.
Sweet revenge, it poisons your soul.
Sweet revenge is addictive and after awhile,you too turn into a bitch yourself.When your friends tell you to change,you tell them you're incorrigible(cannot be changed) cuz you were "born like that".
Don't say that.It's a very negative perception on yourself.You'll just keep losing your friends one by one.It's your choice to learn it the hard way.
People say it's the right thing to do but do you have the patience to do it? I say GO FOR IT.Trust me,I've witnessed it first hand.It took months but my bitch really ended up losing her friends permanently.They can never get permanent friends,always getting new ones by gossiping.Learn from the bitch's mistake.Becoming evil(through revenge) will repulse any friends of yours.
Situation 3:You.Office environment.Boss.
Emo.Moping around.Pessimistic.Negative.Slack.Give stupid excuses when late.
Happy.Always busy.Optimistic.Positive.Hardworking.Always on time.
Effect.
Your boss hates you.Your company is losing money cuz of you.You should get fired.
You'll feel a strong sense of self-confidence because you always have a positive outlook on life.Nothing can bring you down cuz you feel like you're on top of the world! Oh and your boss loves you and you get a higher pay.
Situation 4:You think your body doesn't have enough curves/your boobs aren't big enough/you're not muscular enough/you're too fat etc.
Everyday you look at the mirror and tell yourself your thighs are too big.During Psychical Education you tell yourself you wish you had her legs,her boobs and her smile.In the changing room,you tell your friends you're too fat. Why do you do this? All you're achieving is reassuring yourself that you're ugly and by insulting your body ,you're tremendously pulling down your self-esteem.Why are you the one with the biggest impact on yourself?
''No one can insult you without your consent.''-Yau Kok Fai
People can never hurt your feelings without your consent because you need to agree with them first and that's YOUR decision, not theirs.Thus,ONLY YOU have the power to insult yourself making you become your own worst enemy.
Furthermore,insulting your body while being in the presence of your friends would make them feel obliged to insult themselves too to make you feel better.They may not realize it but they too our pulling down their self-esteem.
Look at the mirror everyday and tell yourself you're beautiful.Tell yourself to stop being so negative.Nothing's sexier than a confident girl ,no?
I've sure got a big thing against negativeness, don't I ?
Positiveness.
What's my verdict?
NONE.NIL.NADA.
Really,what could ever go wrong with being positive? Not letting yourself succumb to evil thoughts(murder,revenge,torture) , when-there's-a-will-there's-a-way attitude , always smiling and loads more.What more could you ask for?The only people against it are probably negative old scrooges *snickers* but life isn't very fun for them now ,is it? Complaining ,harping ,telling themselves they're dead meat.Oh yeah,really FANTASTIC lives they lead.
Ladies and gentlemen,I hope I've written enough to enlighten you on the perks of being positive-minded.My only wish when I wrote this was to help people experience life's precious moments by being positive.I just see so many negative people in my life and I want to help them change.I want to help them smile =).I WANNA ELIMINATE ALL NEGATIVENESS IN THE WORLD 8D!!!!!
Absurd?Well,to each their own perception^^
Remember,it's never too late.
It took me 3 years to build back my confidence cuz being different wasn't easy but it's all been worth it^^
YAU'S POSITIVE RULES
1.Never say you can't change.
2.Don't say you don't know how to.
3.Tell yourself you CAN do it ,somehow and no matter how long it takes, you'll keep trying because when there's a will,there's a way.
4.When talking in your head or audibly, always try to say can,do,shall,will instead of can't,don't,shan't,won't.Somehow, just try to avoid saying negative words.Twist your sentence.Use your brain. Anything negative, just zone it out.
Sorry for grammatical errors and typos.It's 5:30 AM.
P.S-Can anyone give me a verdict on being positive?Sohaico ,that doesn't include you.
EDIT: Marcus replied citing ALWAYS being positive is not good. Well, I completely agree. Of course you need to balance negative and positive but how many of you actually keep it balanced?
Another thing he pointed out is how overly positive people like me tend to get blinded in life.
Tushé, my friend, tushé ;)
Over Positive People.
- Over Positive people fail to improve because they are blinded by their flaws.
- The think they can handle every situation and solve every problem.
- Yes they accept critics with open minds, and they overcome it.
- Then when they do, they become confident and good about themselves.Feeling confident boost self-esteem, which then boost EGO.Which then leads to blindness.
-Marcus Lim
Toodles~!
